Good Fear & Bad Fear
Thoughts on Good Fear & Bad Fear - July 24
When we stay in the space of fear and judgement, we create separation with others. But when we move into the space of love, compassion, we allow the most room for growth and intergration. It doesn’t mean that we just accept bad things, negative situation or negative people that is thrown at us, it means that, we choose to not drink the poison when it is handed to us. When we fear and judge the other person or situation, we put ourself at the same level energy of that situation. If we can learn to distance ourself and move into the space of understanding, love, wisdom that’s when change happen.
So how do we deal in these tough situations?
It means we know our boundaries and we know how to say NO, we don’t tolerate mistreatment or being abused. it means we stay calm and we stay in our power, we don’t panic and blame the other person and we take time to respond. If this is something outside of our control, we give a helping hand and let the person seek professional help (if needed), it means we acknowledge the person or situation but we don’t need to accept it, it means we seek positive action when we encounter bad situation. If it is to the point of ‘we had enough’, we must walk away, and that is one lesson I definitely have learnt.
As many know, I love the teachings of Paul Selig. In one of his book, the guides say, ‘Every choice made in love, calls forth love. Every choice made in fear claims more fear.’ = Fear create more fear. When we believe in something, whether an idea, “This man is mean, rude and self-centred”, we actually contribute more of that energy that sticks to that person. So, we can step away from that and move into the high octave of understanding, if you can shift how you see this man, you allow him the room for growth and change.
There is also the idea of fear (bad fear) and prudence (good fear). So what is the difference? Paul Selig discusses fear and prudence in his book "The Book of Knowing and Worth: A Channeled Text". In this book, Selig distinguishes between fear and prudence.
Fear is often an emotional response to perceived threats or dangers, leading to anxiety, avoidance, and negative thought patterns. It can paralyse decision-making and hinder personal growth when the imagination gets out of control. Fear tends to be irrational, stemming from past experiences or imagined future scenarios rather than present moment.
Prudence is characterised as a form of wisdom and careful judgment. It involves thoughtful consideration of risks and benefits, leading to sensible and informed decisions. Prudence is grounded in the present and relies on rational choice and experience. It encourages caution and well infomred choice.
If you encounter a lion, bad fear says, you are not going to survive, you are going to get killed. Good fear says, you must find the right moment to find a safe shelter.
Good Fear: Is immediate, rational, and protective. It helps us respond to actual threats in our environment, ensuring our safety.
Bad Fear: Is often irrational, based on perceived threats or imagined scenarios. It can be paralysing and limit personal growth and opportunities.